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So where to meet single men who are into fitness you ask? (Or I ask, really.) When you’re at the gym, it’s not in a group fitness class, I can tell you that.
Am I the only one who has noticed the boy-girl ratio in a group fitness class is worse than fat-to-carbs? Usually the men are over in the weight-training area grunting away and lifting a weight the size of my torso. Or they are on the machines, iPod intact, totally in the zone or breathing heavier than I do when Macy’s has a shoe sale. It’s not conducive to chit chat!
Someone told me once that if you want to meet interesting people, you have to do interesting things and go to interesting places. And if you and some triathlete investment banker are on the treadmills at the same time, at least you have an idea of one thing they value: their health. Let’s face it, it is important to have things like that in common. Knowing you’re on the same page—sometimes just knowing you’re in the same book—is really important.
But women are more likely to go to fitness classes than men are. The social aspect, the music, the choreographed routines, the idea of following someone through your workout, these are not things that will attract men. The cliche of men not asking for directions kind of rings true when you look at how many will step into a yoga classroom or group-exercise session. There are exceptions to the rule of course; there always are. I say kudos to the dude who can grapevine to techno and rock downward dog. Maybe most guys don’t think they will get a hard enough workout or they are intimidated by the estrogen fest in the room or they don’t think they can follow the routine, but—whatever the reason—most men are not going to be found in the group fitness studio.
Need alternatives? Here are a few ideas.
Where to Meet Fit Guys
1. Running groups. Most running stores have these, and they are usually free to join up with. At the very least you will get a workout and make friends who have the same interest.
2. Volunteer at fit events. Also try volunteering at races and other athletic events. Not every guy is going to be competing—maybe they are injured or resting. But working the volunteer table is a great place to strike up a conversation. And turn on the charm—there is no shortage of paper and pens, so get that number!
3. Get involved. Find organizations that stress fitness and activity. I spend some of my time doing a mentorship, and they have mixers and happy hours for the volunteers. Many times, fit single guys are filling their time and waiting for a mate the same way we are, by giving back and helping others.
Good luck, ladies! And if you are lucky enough to find a fit boy to spend your time with, show him and his single buddies that the fitness classes aren’t all that intimidating and give the rest of us gals a shot, okay? —Mary Sailors
Mary Sailors from Fit This Girl is a writer, healthy lifestyle blogger, group fitness instructor, and certified personal trainer. With a bachelor’s in English, her passion is helping people better their body, soul and spirit. Her own health journey includes losing 31 pounds and keeping it off for more than six years, becoming a lifetime member of Weight Watchers and trading her 8-to-5 corporate job to become a fitness professional. When she is not studying, teaching or working out, she spends her free time volunteering as a running mentor in Minneapolis, where she lives with her two cats, a tub of cashew butter and a Mac.