Special Treatment for the Expecting


Striking an FBG pose on my way to run errands, un-hideable bump in tow.

I’m now at the point where I’m quite obviously pregnant. People no longer hem and haw around the “Is she or isn’t she?” forbidden question—there is no way this bump is just an indication of a too-heavy meal or an extra few pounds of post-holiday weight around the midsection.

Now that I’m really showing, I’ve noticed that I get treated slightly differently than I did before. I can tell when people are talking about me in a “Oh, look, she’s pregnant” sort of way. And now, people in public regularly ask when I’m due. So far, I’ve been lucky to avoid strangers touching me and offering me unwanted advice, but from what I hear, that’s just around the corner.

Mostly, people are friendlier. I’m noticing extra smiles. Doors get held open for me more. And the other day, in a line for a public restroom, a woman in front of me let me go ahead of her. And all of this friendliness is happening on the East Coast, which makes me feel warm and fuzzy and Midwest.

I definitely don’t mind the added friendliness. Or people allowing me to use the bathroom (so kind and helpful, by the way). But I do draw the line at too much special treatment. I don’t want to let myself get too spoiled during these pregnant months. I don’t want to go soft. So I’ve forbidden myself from using any of the “expecting mothers” parking spots that can be found at a number of stores these days because, well, I can still walk in a parking lot. I’m still mowing the lawn and gardening and pulling weeds. I’m still unloading groceries on my own. I’m still carrying big loads of laundry up and down the stairs, albeit as carefully as I can.

I figure the more active I stay now, the more quickly I’ll be able to get active once the baby’s here. I’m definitely aware, especially when it’s hot outside, of keeping myself cool, drinking plenty of water and taking plenty of breaks. But I’m pregnant, not sick or recovering from two broken arms. The only things I’m not doing are chores requiring standing on chairs, like changing light bulbs or the filter for the air conditioner. Because I’m pretty sure I know how that would turn out. —Erin

P.S. Check out the FBG fruit and veggie challenge for June on SparkPeople. It’s good for moms and non-moms alike! Eat up!

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  1. Tammy says:

    I am going through the same thing. Twice last week, I was offered a seat on the subway. In NEW YORK CITY! And it was rush hour! Unheard of! But, I am trying to stay active and not pig out, despite all the advice from parental figures who think I should stop exercising and eat to my heart’s delight. I’m shocked to learn how many people actually believe working out is BAD during a pregnancy.

    I’m quickly coming upon my 5th month, and I’m enjoying the special treatment for the most part. The advice I can do without, though. People who feel free to tell me how to eat and not to exercise… I find that responding with a smile and “My doctor and I have agreed on an eating and exercise plan, but thanks for your concern” is very effective. Throwing doctor’s advice in there always cuts them short!

    I’m also dreading the strangers wanting to rub my belly. Just NO!!!!!!!!!!!!

  2. Tracy says:

    My coworker had a great solution for when people (strangers) would just come up and touch her belly… she would touch their stomachs back. It definitely gets the point across that a person should ask first and it isn’t too intrusive. Hey, they did it first, right? 🙂

    Most research indicates that if you stay in shape during pregnancy, the easier birth and getting in shape will be. As long as you don’t push it too much, which it sounds like you’re doing just fine at.

    You look great! Good luck with the baby and can’t wait to hear more updates! 🙂

  3. Morgan says:

    GREAT post! I feel the same way. I like the fact that people are so much nicer, but I don’t like to feel like I’m an invalid! I appreciate the nice gestures, but there’s only so much before it’s almost offensive!

  4. Lindsay says:

    Hey, maybe you will be lucky – no one ever tried to actually touch me. I got lots of comments (“Are there two in there?” “No, just one, THANKS.”) but no unwanted belly touching. Maybe I just sent off a vibe? Or maybe people are getting a clue? Wishing you luck! 🙂

  5. Jenn C says:

    That’s great Erin! I too was bashful in accepting the special treatment I’m getting. Then my Mom told me to fully embrace it. Reason being is that when baby comes along, Moms far too often, yet understandably, forget about themselves and put themselves last after children, husband and for some, career. So now, I gladly take the “treatment”. I agree that I too don’t take the “expectant mother” parking. I like the walk and it’s a way for me to sneak exercise in since I’m so limited due to activity restriction.

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  7. Kelly says:

    The nice treatment is great! I think you’re smart not to take advantgae though; it’ll pay off post-partum!

  8. Allie says:

    I think it is great that you don’t need the special treatment. It’s good that you are still doing your regular things. Again, congrats!