A Bumpy Body Image


Credit: Grammatic Error

At 30 weeks pregnant, I can honestly say that I love my pregnant body. Sure, I’ll be glad to be a little less clumsy . And it’ll be nice to be able to bend over and tie my shoes with ease again. Not to mention take care of my bikini line, which I can no longer see. And I do miss sleeping on my stomach and being able to shift positions in the night without having to muster all of my focus at 3 a.m. But when I say that I feel like a whale, I mean it in the kindest sense. I don’t mean that I feel fat—I mean that I feel how a whale must feel when she’s washed up on the beach: I’m not in an environment natural to this body type, and it’s darn difficult to maneuver.

As the belly gets larger and larger and as I see my tiny chicken pox scar migrate from down by my hip to way up my side, I do wonder how it’s possible that I’ll ever bounce back after baby. How does a stomach the size of a basketball ever return to its previous shape? If you believe the covers of all of the magazines, it’s going to be a breeze. I’ll be on here in December bragging that I lost 30 pounds in just 30 days.

JUST KIDDING, I WOULD NEVER DO THAT TO YOU. And you know why? Because it’s ridiculous.

I think part of the public’s fascination with the post-baby-body magazine cover is that we’re all curious as to what the body really looks like after a baby arrives. While Kourtney Kardashian (and countless others) bare their bods post-pregnancy, beware of the excessive Photoshop that they often encounter. These before-and-after photos are so unrealistic—and we know that—but it’s hard to keep them from getting in our brains and thinking that it should be that easy for everyone.

I’m not going to say that it wouldn’t be lovely to pop out of the hospital at my pre-pregnancy weight, with everyone telling me that I look fab. But it’s just not going to happen—and it shouldn’t. First of all, you spend a good portion of a year putting on the weight, so it makes sense that it would take some time to take it off again. (Check out where all of that poundage is going.) Second, while I expect breastfeeding to help with weight-loss, it’s not going to be a cure-all—and there are bound to be times when I’m sleep deprived and exhausted and I don’t have time to cook the healthiest meal. And third: It’s not like I’m going to be out running marathons immediately after giving birth.

We need to stop expecting moms to pull a Heidi Klum—most of us aren’t going to be bikini or runway-ready a month post-partum. And we need to remember how hard those new moms are working—and how much airbrushing is going into those post-baby-body photos. Better yet, do me a favor: Stop buying those magazines!

For me, I plan to treat my post-baby body the same as I’ve treated it while pregnant: with kindness and patience. Even though I look upon the stretch marks that are surely coming with dread, I know I’m putting my body through all of this for a good cause. How about you? How do you feel about your pregnancy or post-pregnancy bod? —Erin

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  1. Erica says:

    I was just getting my body ready for a healthier lifestyle when my husband and I decided to get pregnant so you could imagine my shock when after losing 12 lbs I found out I was pregnant. With my first pregnancy, I gained 5-10 lbs within one month thanks to all the Chinese food I was eating but decided to take a different approach to this pregnancy with healthier food. And so far so good! I enjoyed this article because you helped me realize that I don’t need to work my butt off and take some diet supplement to lose weight. Just need to take it nice and slow like I am with the weight gain and I should lose the weight with some ease 🙂

  2. katrina m says:

    This is a nice post. I am at 20 weeks, so I am still not shaped too differently, but my belly is definitely sticking out now and I have gained about 15-18 pounds. I agree that it takes awhile to put it on, and it’s only natural that it will take time to take it off. I have always struggled with weight, so for me it’s not really anything different. I’m hoping that I will be able to respect my body when the time comes for everything is has done and been through, and not be too frustrated if it takes longer for the weight to come off.

    And you’re right about the celebs. Besides the airbrushing and photo effects, they all have personal trainers working them, nannies for their babies so they have the TIME to work out, and some I’m sure even have chefs cooking the perfect food for them! If we were all that lucky we could bounce back in no time too!!

  3. Nykia says:

    My daughter is 1 now. I love my new body its just the stretch marks that i hate.I hear that they fade over time so im going to wait.But i dont even pick up those magazine because there so unrealistic

  4. Orit says:

    My body will never be the same as before pregnancy. There is no shrinking the hips back into place. But, it is all worthwhile when you have a beautiful child. The changes in body are all overpowered by the love in the heart.

  5. jenn says:

    Excellent message for moms. It is a shame that so many think anything less than a.heidi turnaround is unacceptable.

  6. Ali says:

    Please don’t perpetuate this assumption that everyone who goes back to normal quickly uses Photoshop or a personal trainer. Some people are just lucky. I was back to my normal weight within 5 days and my normal shape within 10 days – not through talent or virtue, through luck. It does happen. And i didn’t spend all my time at the gym neglecting​ my baby (didn’t go to gym at all)