How to Keep the Fire When Mama is Tired

Although you’re acting intrigued and completely participating in the women-only sex toy party, deep down you’re dying because even talking about sex completely exhausts you. All day long, we have little people hanging on us, touching us and invading our personal space. Then your husband comes home and wants to be in your personal space, too. Have you read If You Give a Mouse a Cookie? There’s no such thing as a little nibble. Once you’ve given any hope, you’re fully committed. So, just how do you keep that fire when you are one over-exhausted mama? We’ve got tips!

6 Ways to Keep the Fire When Mama Is Tired

1. Don’t wait until the end of the day. We are all tired, and that’s a bad time for anyone. Especially after the kids’ bedtime scene. Reading relaxes and oftentimes puts more than just the kids to sleep. So, be more spontaneous with the time you have. Set an alarm for earlier in the morning before the kids wake.

2. Lunch rendezvous. Do you both have a long lunch hour? A little meeting place never hurt anyone. Now, don’t go getting a ticket for indecent exposure, but do find a little fun place to re-energize your return to work.

3. Reinvent date night. Does date night always have to be a restaurant? Hire your sitter and go to a hotel. Kids sleeping out? Go right home after drop off, do your dirty, then grab dinner. You’re welcome.

4. Allow the sexy. Spoil yourself, allow yourself to feel sexy, and you’ll be more likely to show your spouse what you’re working with. Pick up some new sexy heels, find a silky bathrobe to drape over your naked body, try out one of those sexy high buns. Do what is within your comfort zone, but push yourself even a little.

5. Reread 50 Shades of Grey. ‘Nuff said.

6. Rent it. Unsure where to start? AT&T won’t judge you for an X-rated movie rental. Watch it together and turn on the heat.

Above all else, don’t throw in the towel. Sex is important in any relationship. It is an intimate moment that only takes place between you and your spouse. Make that special private time to connect a priority. You will rarely regret it!

How do you prioritize romance? —Jennifer