Why Mom Friends Are Essential When You’re Pregnant
Ever since I found out I was pregnant, Erin has been my unicorn mom friend. She was — and continues to be — this constant source of magical information of all things pregnancy, babies and motherhood because, well, she’s done it three times. And that much experience makes for one hell of a mom friend. She knows it all and is way more fun to talk to than my practitioner or typing things in Google. A few examples:
Is this shooting pain normal? Yes, I lovingly call those “baby stabs.”
Do I really need a Rock ‘N Play, swing AND bouncer?! Nah, remember that women have gotten by on waaay less.
I’m having a panic attack trying to figure out daycare. How the freak will I raise a baby and help run our business? We’ll figure it out together.
I won’t even go into the details of the TMI things I’ve asked about — everything from gas, poop, dreams, orgasms, orgasms during dreams and everything else extremely personal you can think of. And she has been my rock. My beacon of mom-knowing who is willing to share any and all of her experience and knowledge: my ultimate unicorn mom friend!
And I am so, so, SO grateful for her. I didn’t grow up around a lot of small kids, and just now my closest in-town friends are starting to pop kids out. So, I’ve had a lot to learn. Pregnancy throws a lot of wacky things at you and as the bump grows you no doubt have a ton of questions of what it’s like to have a newborn and then, you know, raise a human being. So it’s been essential to me to have support and a mom mentor of sorts. Erin has been that. (Thank you, Erin!)
In addition, as I’ve been going through this, I’ve learned how important it is to not just have one unicorn mom friend (if you have an Erin in your life, you’re so lucky!) but to surround yourself with others who are going through the same thing, too. There’s never a moment that I’m not eternally grateful for my growing little girl, but that’s not to say that sometimes I don’t just freak the heck out at how much my life is going to be completely flipped upside down come February. Not to mention that your non-mom friends may not want to discuss all things bump- and kid-related like you do. All the time.
I’ve reconnected with a friend from college who’s basically as far along as I am in pregnancy, I know a few girls at the gym who are knocked up, and I’ve recently started taking a prenatal yoga class full of first-time, second-time and third-time moms in all different stages of pregnancy. And I’ve spent a lot of time with my friends who have little ones at home, getting time in holding, burping and getting a tiny taste of what it’s like to care for a tiny person. Not to mention that my freakin’ best friend just announced she’s pregnant, too! (Bump besties!) Having that support system around has been enriching, informative, fulfilling and just downright fun.
I mean, who else are you going to send this photo to? Only your mom friends (and, now, all of the moms on the internet), that’s who.
Do you have a unicorn mom friend? Have other moms going through the same things you are? How does having mom friends help you? —Jenn