In 2010 we gave the title of Fit Bottomed Girl of the Year to Ruby Gettinger. Her honest and open discussion about weight inspired us then — and it inspires us now. Over the years we’ve kept up with Ruby and have been lucky enough to call her a virtual bud. We have a lot of readers who are Ruby fans and are always wondering what she’s been up to and are curious about where she’s at in her weight-loss journey. So, for our birthday this year, we thought: Hey, why not take seven minutes and catch up with Ms. Hacky Wacky herself? From what’s been going on in her personal life to how you can keep up with her to what motivates her to keep being healthy day after day, here’s our inspirational interview with Ruby!
Interview With Ruby Gettinger
What have you been up to in the last year? Wow! Where do I begin? This past year has been a constant whirlwind. As you know, I lost my brother, John, unexpectedly in 2012, and I ended up gaining a little over 70 pounds. Well, I finally had to shake myself back to the land of the living, get back up and fight again. I got down to my lowest weight 319. One of the closest people to me became extremely sick. A sickness I’ve never seen or experienced before. The doctors could never figure out what was wrong. I was so scared — they went through a lot of testing, their sickness was 24/7 and I was on watch for them 24/7 for over six months and thank God they are now okay! We never figured out what was wrong but with prayer, love, support they are okay today.
My BF Georgia’s sweet mom Ann became sicker and we lost sweet Ann, and less than a month later, my BF Jeff lost his daddy. During all this, I had two months to move out of my home and find another place to rent. I hated leaving my home of 11 years. July hit me hard; Foxy became sick and within 48 hours of giving her mouth to mouth and fighting as hard as I could to keep her alive, my baby of 16.5 years died. I am heartbroken. Seriously, she was my child. We were together 24/7. I didn’t realize till after her death how much she was my constant companion. It’s like the Phantom Limb Syndrome. I feel her still here with me.
I was so involved in all that was going on around me that I forgot me and my health; no weigh-ins, no working out, no writing in my journal, no accountability! And there came the weight gain. Through all this, I was still having meetings with development about continuing the Ruby Show, The Ruby Dating Show, [other new concepts like] Ruby is breaking down the fourth wall, Ruby travels state to state and does Ruby walks/boot camps, etc. [We’re] still in meetings. A group was started on Facebook: #BringtheRubyShowBack.
My life has been in a total hurricane with no warnings!
Any plans for a new show or podcast? Yes! First for those that do not know, you can find my podcast here: Ruby’s Hacky Life Podcast.
I will be doing a new podcast in a couple of weeks to finish up answering some of these questions for you. In July and August, I will be interviewing several people about their personal stories, triumphs, transformations, etc … If you would like to share your story, please send it here.
Yes, we are still meeting several productions and networks about developing a new show, maybe on TV or going digital. My dream show would be to travel state to state in an RV and meet all of my supporters — Facebook, Twitter,
What workouts are you doing now? I am no longer working out with anyone. Right now, my workouts are walking with Jeff, Jim and Mellie (Jeff’s American bulldog), on my treadmill with my music, or Zumba at home or different classes in town or out of town! I love Zumba!!!!
Any advice for those starting their weight-loss journey? Yes! It is going to be hard. Please do not look at it as a weight-loss journey or diet. Please look at it as a lifestyle change. Do not go after the quick fixes. I’ve done that too many times. Once I think I’ve learned not to do it, there I go again believing or buying into the next quick fix! I refuse to do this any longer. My advice to myself and y’all is to eat healthy, walk, ride your bike, find something you love to do. Moving your body isn’t just for losing weight. It helps your blood flow, keeps your joints from stiffness or swelling, it helps with stress.
Have any new Ruby-isms/fun sayings? Lordy, Pajordy! Notta! He is yummy or if I really like him — “Yummy I got love in my tummy.” Lol! I can’t remember a lot of them since they just come to me in the moment. Sorry. 🙂
What’s one thing most people don’t know about you? There are several things people do not know about me. I thought I would have a little fun with this question and asked some of my famie (family) and closest fins (friends).
Jeff and Jim said: “I am obsessed with Lizzie Borden Chronicles and that I am online doing my investigation. Plus I am in love with ‘Siringo’ Cole Hauser and obsessed with Jack The Ripper, and while in London bought a book with actual documents and thinks I have it all figured out!” I am laughing out loud; it’s so true!
Danna and Toni said: “People love you not because of your story of weight gain or loss, but because you are genuine and real. You truly care about people and the condition of their heart. It’s hard to find real people in this world anymore who truly care. People are drawn to you because you’re real. There’s nothing that replaces honesty and character. It’s a heart issue, not a weight issue. You are a prayer warrior and have power in your prayers! God has given you the power to call things that are not as though they are.”
I asked Georgia, Ben, Zac and what they said is hilarious: “You use to crack every one’s fingers!” And: “To embarrass us you made us believe you were flashing people in the Rite-Aid parking lot. Or truckers riding by on the highway.” This is funny!
Personally I have to say: I can’t stand the way people judge one another. I truly believe in the power of God and Jesus! I do not judge others. My Bible, the King James version, tells me to not judge others and to love one another as He (God) loves us and as we love ourselves. It breaks my heart because I know what it’s like being judged. My Bible says, “People judge by outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart. The Lord seeth not as man seeth; man only sees what is without, but the Lord sees what is within!”
I am very passionate about getting God’s truth out! Not man’s!
Do you have a phrase or mantra that motivates you? What is it? “Feelings can’t be ignored, no matter how unjust or ungrateful they seem.” “Deep down, the young are lonelier than the old.” “I don’t think of all the misery but of the beauty that still remains. I keep my ideals, because in spite of everything I still believe that people are really good at heart.”
And finally: “I twist my heart around again so that the bad is on the outside and the good is on the inside, and keep on trying to find a way of becoming what I would so like to be, and could be, if there weren’t any other people living in the world. The weak fall, but the strong will remain and never go under!” AMEN. I get this 150 percent. Sweet Anne Frank, I love this little girl. We all can learn from her.
I believe we are all born with a God-given destiny! We are all born for a purpose. I want to live my purpose. We are not defined by our shells; they are just the house we live in. Our soul longs to meet its destiny and we will not be complete until it does!
Any new goals? Yes!!! To finish this once and for all.
My biggest goal is to find a way we all can overcome this together. To get the truth out and truly get this beast called obesity under control in this country and beyond!!
After watching Fed Up I was furious because it was not only an awakening for me, but I knew down deep this is how I felt and wanted to hear more truth. Things that consumed me that I could never put into words. I’ve been fighting this fight, walking this walk, this journey since I was 13. I was outraged after watching this documentary. Thank you, Katie Couric, Mark Monroe, Stephanie Soechtig for the truth in Fed Up. I had to pause the documentary because the truth would hit me so hard that I would become so mad! I’ve always believed “the truth will set us free!”
Anything else you’d like to add? Yes! I want to answer some of the other questions asked of me. On my next podcast, I will share how I went from 750 to 554 before the show.
As of today, I refuse to tell anyone my weight! If I am losing, you will see it with your eyes. If I am gaining weight, you will see it with your eyes. When I started my journey, I never let my weight define who I am. Somewhere down this road everything became about my weight. Before I knew it, I was controlled by the number on the scale. Let me be 150 percent honest that my identity became my weight number. And it broke my heart when I saw what I allowed to happen to me. I stayed in solitude, shame, guilt and I was not living my God-given destiny. Thank you God for my tribe and BFFs from Georgia, Tennessee, New York City, California, Mississippi, Nevada, New Jersey and South Carolina for helping me see the truth.
I thought it was hard when I started. WOW! When I started, I was losing 4 to 6 pounds a week. Because the bigger you are, the faster it comes off. During my journey, I’ve had several setbacks. I refuse to give up. I will still fight, and I WILL WIN! Today I face another setback. I am crawling back into the fighting ring and starting again. I’ve been at war, in a battle for my life … spiritually, mentally, emotionally, physically and financially. I hope you will keep fighting with me. Keep telling yourself — write it on your bathroom mirror: “Giving up is not an option!”
We were born in this generation for a purpose.
Refuse to let time steal any more of your life.
Refuse to be around the people who tear you down.
In our lives, we have balcony and basement people. “Basement people” can be people from our past or present, but they are the people we give too much power to. Their words haunt us words like, “You can’t do that.” “That’s a stupid thing to do.” “You will never get it right.” “You will never amount to anything.” Basement people try to discourage us from our hopes and dreams. They constantly point out what is wrong, rather than what is right with us. Basement people come in with a dark cloud over them and usually want to leave us with one. It’s usually because the way they see everything or they are just simply jealous or mean.
“Balcony people” are people who are full of love and our No. 1 cheerleaders. They are encouragers, they love us, support us 100 percent. If we fall, they are there to pick us up and tell us YES we can!!! They sit in the balcony section, cheering us all the way and saying, “You can do it.” “We believe in you.” “You are special to us.” Balcony people are the great encouragers in our lives and we ALL need them!
Today is the day we must run from our BASEMENT people and not look back. Today we must surround ourselves with BALCONY people. Let us get started!!! Hootie! Hoot! Hoo!
***Thank you, Fit Bottomed Girls, for being my balcony people!***
Cheering you on every step of the way, Ruby! We heart you! —The FBGs