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Your Answer to This Question Will Predict Whether You Have Lasting Weight-Loss or Not

Yeah, that headline is pretty bold. But I wanted to get your attention because this is important. SO important.


If you’re looking to lose weight and get healthier, there’s one question that you need to ask yourself. And it’s essential that you really feel into the full answer and your truth. Because the answer — the deep down answer (not the one you think you’re supposed to have or want to have) — can be so telling about your future success in reaching that goal.

Okay, ready for it?


Do you want to look good? Or do you want to feel good?


I mean, obviously we all would like both. And there’s wrong with that. Nothing at all. But if you’re only looking to change your appearance, well, we can tell you firsthand that that motivation usually doesn’t last more than a few weeks. And that it’s usually a cover-up for other issues going on. And until you deal with those other issues and fully come to the change process with a true desire to just feel awesome and love yourself, then you’re just going to keep repeating the weight-loss cycle over and over again because you actually haven’t addressed the root cause.


(Wouldn’t it be awesome if we all actually got a therapist for free?!)

I recently wrote about the most common reasons why we emotionally eat. And I’ve already ranted about how we’ve all grown up using dieting as a socially acceptable form of hating ourselves or, truthfully, wasting our time and energy instead of standing in our power. And I think this question really gets to the root of it.

So, again. Tell me: Do you want to look good? Or do you want to feel good? Which urge is stronger?

If it’s feeling good, rock on. Continue thinking about all the reasons why you deserve to feel good and how your life will change when love it healthy. And then do the healthy thing, girl.

And if it’s looking good, take a breath. With lots of love, ask yourself why? And then ask why again and again, until you can’t drill down any further. What is the true need there? What’s the part of your soul that’s crying out to be heard? Be brave and explore that.

Once you know your why, you can fulfill that need and begin to shift your mindset to making healthier decisions out of a place of self-respect instead of self hate. It takes time and awareness, but it’s possible. And it’s essential to getting the lasting change that you deserve.

Now get in here …


And if you need some help making that transition or getting healthy from that place of self-love, join us hereIt’s kind of — okay, totally — our jam. Jenn

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  1. Samantha says:

    This is so true! There can be a lot of pressure from society to look a certain way. But what truly matters is how we feel on the inside. By practicing self-love, we naturally make healthier choices because we want to treat our body right. It is so much deeper than how we physically look, and that comes naturally as a pleasant side effect of our healthy decisions! Great article!

  2. Sarah says:

    This is absolutely the case for me. For years, I tried to lose weight, but it never stuck because it was all about the numbers and looking skinnier. But when I got tired of feeling like crap and the fear of worsening health issues finally sunk into my brain, I made the changes I needed and two years later, I’m still sticking to it. I like how I look now, but the real thing that keeps me going is how amazing I feel when I eat healthy and workout. I don’t think I’ll ever go back to my old way of doing things.

    I love this post and this blog!

  3. Amazing article, thanks.That’s a great way to go about it. No excuses, I love it. I am a super cheerleader of women’s fitness! Nerd Fitness is so great. Great motivation!

  4. So true, Jen. My lifetime of dieting was focused on looking like the models in the magazines, and the motivation never lasted, because deep down I knew I would never reach that goal, so why torture myself? Finally, in my 50s, I’ve reached a point where I am truly grateful to my amazing body for all it can do, and I want to take care of it and make sure I have strength, balance, and flexibility for as long as I can. I want to enjoy as much of this life and experience as much of this world as I can. I can only do that with a healthy body. By the way, I’ve done the 10 in 4 and highly recommend it. In truth, I didn’t have 10 pounds to lose, but I did have a lot to learn about nutritious eating, and 10 in 4 was just the ticket. Thanks Jen!


    1. Jenn says:

      Awesome, awesome, AWESOME. 🙂

      —FBG Jenn

  5. Kathrin says:

    For me it is important both. I want to look good and of course to be healthy. It is very important to be in a shape and to look after yourself

  6. jack lee says:

    wow Very cool gif, great advice

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